Part 3: From Metrics to Momentum
Why newness dysregulates us (and how to respond)
Want to start from the beginning? Here’s Part 1: Why external strategies aren't enough to sustain visibility
Newness isn’t neutral
It doesn’t take much. A new platform, a new format, a new audience. Our nervous system doesn’t just log it as different, it logs it as potentially unsafe.
Not because it’s wrong or actually unsafe.
But because it’s unknown.
Think of the last time you drove somewhere new. You likely had to turn the music down to read street signs. Or maybe the trees covered up the name of the road. Your senses heightened. You scanned every detail. And it wasn’t because you were afraid. It was because your system was trying to keep you safe. Rapidly working to build its database of this new terrain.
That’s nervous system activation. It doesn’t have to feel like panic. It might just feel like:
hyperfocus
muscle tension
uncertainty
fatigue
This is often what happens when we post online. Especially in places like LinkedIn.
It’s new. It’s public. It’s layered with stories about how we "should" show up.
And suddenly what felt exciting a moment ago feels tight in your chest.
How it shows up
We tend to label this as fear or resistance. But that’s not always true. Sometimes it’s just run of the mill nervous system dysregulation.
And when you realize there’s nothing wrong, something softens.
Because if you knew your nervous system was trying to protect you, not sabotage you, how might you relate to it differently?
Field Notes: When I first started posting, I would reread each post 20 times. Check for typos. Try to make it sound smart enough. Then spend the rest of the day wondering if I said too much. Or too little. Or the wrong thing. What I thought was fear of being seen or being misunderstood... was really my body reacting to being in a new place.
Maybe you’ve sensed it too…
You avoid writing even when you have something to say
You freeze or over-explain your posts or messages
You feel fine until you click to share it
You check notifications in a loop
You feel exhausted after putting it out there
This isn’t proof you’re not cut out for it.
It’s proof that you care. That your system is doing its job.
But what if you could meet it differently?
A tool that helps you tune into you
I’m sure you are noticing a theme here especially if you are reading this series of posts in order (an no worries if you aren’t). Being able to tune into you is the reoccurring theme. But how do you do that?
I remember what one client said like it was 5 minutes ago. “If all I need is within me, then where the hell is it!? I hear this all the time, but I can’t find it.” She was in the middle of The Inner Way, and this wasn’t just frustration... it was a real legit question.
How many times have we seen this on an IG post? A friend attempting to reassure you are not broken. A message meant to inspire yet feels so unobtainable in practice.
It’s why I bring human design into all my work. I’ve tried a lot of things (the list is endless with some common things, weird things, and really weird – LOL, but that’s for another day). Human design is the one thing that is deeply layered with insights and reveals resonance on the surface so that you can have your first breakthrough on day one.
Exploring your human design helps ground you, regulate your nervous system, strengths your self-trust, and opens doors to new possibilities. It’s your flowprint.
This is your permission to pause
You don’t need a new posting schedule. You need a new relationship with what visibility feels like for you, in the way that supports you.
All you do Before You Post is the key.
How you tune into yourself.
How you see where your safety level is.
And not to worry, this too will grow because it’s not about standing still. Just long enough to move from safety. Then your circumference of safety expands.
I want to offer a starting point. One that doesn't put urgency on a pedestal. One that strengthens and expands your foundation of self-trust.
Part 4: From Metrics to Momentum
Leading with emotion, not logic, in how you choose and create
So where to start?
What Do I Write About? is a calm, grounding way to begin.
Not a productivity tool.
A regulation one.
It helps you return to your pace, your cues, your voice. And from there, you can write. Not because you "should." But because something inside you wants to.
Get the guide here: https://creative-extension.kit.com/what-do-i-write-about
